Monday, April 2, 2012

Againts Women Abuse


This is my Break Time Entry.

Today I wanna talk about Women Abuse.

What is Abuse? Abuse is a pattern of physical, sexual, economic and/or psychological violence used to get control and maintain control over an intimate partner. Or lebih tepat lagi, keganasan rumah tangga. It is important to know that you do not deserve to be abused, ladies. Kenapa aku nak bercakap tentang Woman Abuse ni? Sebab aku seorang wanita, dan ingin bersuara bagi pihak wanita yang diluar sana. And  this entry is specially for married women, yang tak kahwin pun boleh baca jugak for reminder and information.

Below are some examples of types of abuse yang very common these days.

Physical Abuse

This type of abuse dah selalu kita dengar.

  • Pushing, hitting, choking, kicking, biting, cutting, burning, spitting
  • Holding you down or preventing you from leaving the room
  • Throwing objects at you
  • Threatening you with a weapon
  • Locking you in or out of the house
  • Abandoning you in dangerous places
  • Preventing you from getting sleep or waking you up out of sleep
  • Refusing help when you are sick, injured or pregnant
  • Endangering you by driving wildly or recklessly

Psychological Abuse
  • Ignoring your feelings (ini pun salah satu bentuk penderaan jugak)
  • Making fun of your beliefs
  • Threatening to take your children
  • Manipulating you with lies
  • Degrading women as a group
  • Calling you names like bitch, slut, whore, or cunt
  • Telling you that you’re stupid, dumb, fat, or ugly
  • Refusing to take you places
  • Isolating you from your friends and family
  • Constantly criticizing you and the way you do things
  • Making fun of your friends and family
  • Taking away your car keys or money
  • Threatening to leave you or making you leave
  • Threatening to hurt your family
  • Hurting your children when he was angry at you
  • Hurting your pets to get at you
  • Threatening to take your children if you leave

Economic Abuse
  • Refusing to give you money for food or clothing
  • Making you ask for money
  • Forcing you to hand over money that you earn
  • Making you spend all your own money while he doesn’t spend his (this is very tak guna punya husband T_T)
  • Refusing to support your children (Same goes to this)
  • Not letting you have access to a checking account
  • Not letting you be involved in making decisions about money

Sexual Abuse

  • Treating you as a sex object
  • Assuming that you will have sex with any man
  • Criticizing the way you act during sex
  • Withholding sex and affection
  • Forcing you to have sex when you do not want to
  • Forcing you to have sex with other people
  • Forcing you to have sex after an argument or beating
  • Forcing you to have sex when you are pregnant or sick
  • Refusing to pay bills or take care of other basic needs until you have sex with him
  • Calling you a “whore” after sex
  • Insisting on unwanted or uncomfortable touching
  • Forcing you to have sex then telling you that you “wanted it”
  • Accusing you of having sex with other women
  • Telling and bragging about sex with other women
  • Checking your clothing for signs that you have had sex with someone
  • Assuming that you have to have sex with him because you are “his woman”

 Hope all the information dapat menambah lagi pengetahuan korang terhadap penderaan wanita sekali gus mencegah daripada berlakunya sesuatu yang tak diingini dalam rumahtangga korang semua nanti. ^_^ 

So Ladies, are you with me against violence and women abuse?

 Wise word

p/s: All the information is from this website:  Partnership Against Domestic Violence (PADV)
Pictures: Credit to Google

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